Hello everyone! As we count down the days to Independence Day, I wanted to share some tips to help you host or attend the best spoonie (aka: chronically ill-friendly) summer barbecue. With a little planning, we can ensure that everyone has a fantastic time, filled with fun, food, friends, and family. Whether you’re organizing the event or joining in as a guest, these suggestions will help make a 4th of July celebration inclusive and enjoyable for all.
1. You Do You: Prioritizing Personal Needs During Celebrations
Celebrations can be exciting but also overwhelming, especially with the heat, noise, food, and smells of barbecues on July 4th. It’s important to remember to monitor your own needs and those of the Friends in the Fight around you. Here are a few reminders:
Pack Your Essentials
Bring your medication, water, cooling garments, sunblock, and anything else you might need to stay comfortable. This ensures you’re prepared and can enjoy the event without worry.
Food Considerations
Even if the event isn’t a potluck, bringing your own food can be a lifesaver. It prevents situations where you might have to choose between eating a trigger food and going hungry. Pack snacks or meals that you know are safe for you.
Self-Advocacy
If you need to take some quiet time, find shade, or require assistance, don’t hesitate to speak up. Celebrations should be enjoyable for everyone, and taking care of your needs is crucial.
2. Provide Options: Ensuring Everyone Feels Welcome
Inclusivity can make a significant difference in the success of your event. Here’s how you can ensure everyone feels welcome and accommodated:
Food Choices for All
Rather than preparing a single dish that may not suit everyone’s dietary needs, consider setting up a taco bar or a similar DIY food station. This allows guests to customize their meals according to their preferences and restrictions, whether they’re gluten-free, vegetarian, or dairy-free.
Flexible Environments
Offer various seating options and activity areas. Have indoor spaces for those who need a break from the sun, shady spots for comfort, and sunny areas for those who prefer it. This way, guests can choose where they feel most comfortable.
Activity Levels for Different Energy Needs
Plan activities that cater to different energy levels. While some might enjoy active games, others might prefer quieter, more relaxed options. Having a mix ensures that everyone can participate in a way that suits them.
Educators learning about Universal Design are often presented with analogies along these lines: You’re hosting a party. You make a delicious taco casserole. To your dismay, you find out that one of your friends can’t eat it because it’s not gluten-free. Another is vegetarian. Yet another can’t eat the cheese… etc. You end up with a dinner that almost none of your guests can eat! Instead, make a taco bar — use the same ingredients, but separate them, so that guests can pick and choose the options that work for them.
This analogy can easily apply to hosting a 4th of July celebration.
3. Communicate: This is The Key to a Smooth Celebration!
Effective communication is key to a smooth and enjoyable event. Here’s how both hosts and guests can make sure everyone’s needs are met:
Hosts: Understanding Your Guests’ Needs
Think about your guests and their potential needs. Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification if you’re unsure about any specific requirements. A little effort in understanding can go a long way in making everyone comfortable.
Guests: Planning Ahead and Communicating
Plan ahead by thinking through the day’s activities and anticipating any needs you might have. Communicate these needs to your host in advance if possible. Most hosts are more than willing to accommodate, but they need to know how to help.
Designate a Point Person
As a host, having a designated person to check in with guests and manage any adjustments can be very helpful. For guests, having someone who understands your needs and can advocate on your behalf can save you energy and avoid potential stress.
Final Thoughts
As we approach Independence Day, let’s make sure our celebrations are inclusive and enjoyable for everyone. By planning ahead, providing options, and communicating effectively, we can create an environment where everyone feels welcome and comfortable. Remember, the goal is to have fun and celebrate together, while ensuring that everyone’s needs are met.
Enjoy the preparations and have a wonderful Independence Day!