Chronic illness often brings up a need for difficult conversations with loved ones. When needs are raw and what you both want may not be possible, pain can wedge its way into relationships. I have learned, through the necessity of illness, however, how to handle these conversations. In fact, I truly believe that I am a better communicator, and that my relationships are stronger and more intimate, because of being a spoonie.
If you feel nervous or tense going into these conversations, check out our tips on how to broach challenging topics with love and respect! We chatted as a team about positive conversations we’ve had, and this is what we came up with:
1. Come prepared to the conversation
One of the things that has really helped me in the past is to know what I want to say going into a conversation. I’ll often write notes that I bring with me that can help to keep me on track and stay true to my intention / goal going into the conversation. Coming emotionally prepared is also helpful; starting a conversation already feeling triggered or angry will be more likely to run amock. Meditating, doing deep breathing, and reminding myself why I hope the conversation will stay respectful makes it more likely to end up that way.